Men, it’s your fault mothers abort…mostly

Mothers abort their children for many reasons.  In my opinion, none are good enough except to save her life.  Admittedly, the way I characterize the reasons given for abortion, it sounds harsh, cold-hearted, and even callous:  ‘justifications’ for elective abortion are selfish.  But the true reason for elective abortion is not listed.  I don’t think this is intentional, just overlooked.  This is because most people wouldn’t even think to link it to abortion because the reason precedes pregnancy, and abortion is only considered an option once pregnant:  Sexual liberty.

What do I mean by sexual liberty?  First, here’s what I don’t mean.  I don’t mean these women are sex-crazed fiends who jump from partner to partner succumbing to their lusts.  I also don’t mean that these women are even all that promiscuous.  Sexual liberty is the notion that a woman should have the freedom to have sex as frequently or infrequently, with as many or few different partners as they desire, without the consequence (I hate using this term relating to pregnancy) of producing children.   Essentially: I want to have sex as often as I choose and not be required to have a baby.

Pregnancy is only caused by only one activity.  It would seem that many women are willing to take on the risk of pregnancy by engaging in the act, but then unwilling to accept what follows.  I think it’s reasonable to conclude there is the tacit acceptance of pregnancy by engaging in the only behavior that makes one pregnant.  It would be like driving a car and not wanting to have to take the responsibility that comes from getting into an accident and injuring or killing someone.  Of course you don’t intend to cause an accident.  But in the event that while engaging in the only activity by which car accidents happen (driving cars), you must be prepared to take that responsibility.  It cannot be abdicated by virtue of non-intention.  Nearly half of all pregnancies are unintended, and nearly half of those are due to not using contraception.  That is like driving drunk.

This will sound exceedingly sexist, but I think it’s true nonetheless.  I think women bear the brunt of the responsibility when it comes to unplanned pregnancy, though it shouldn’t be this way.  Men (single men) generally speaking, quite frankly are irresponsible sexually when it comes to caring for, protecting, and providing for the families they create in the wake of their “conquests”.  They are quick to say whatever is necessary to get women in the bed, and even quicker to disappear when they get the phone call telling them I’m late.  I lay the majority of the blame for abortion at the feet of men.  men, you place mothers in a situation where they feel they’re left with no options.  It’s a very scary situation when a woman feels like she’ll be left on her own to raise a child without its father.  Abortion is the wrong choice, but too many women feel it’s their only option.  But women need to be strong and look out for themselves too, knowing this.  They need to realize that if they are not married, there is a good chance they will be a single parent with little or no help.  It is not ideal, or right, but unfortunately, it’s reality.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau (pp. 4-5):

About one-quarter (24.6 percent) of custodial parents and their children had 2007 incomes below the poverty level, about twice as high as the overall poverty rate for the total population (12.5 percent). The poverty rate of custodial parents declined between 1993 (33.3 percent) and 2001 (23.4 percent) and has remained statistically unchanged since (Figure 1). Poverty levels varied widely among custodial-parent groups. The poverty rate of custodial mothers fell from 36.8 percent in 1993 to 27.0 percent in 2007 and was significantly higher than the poverty rate for custodial fathers, 12.9 percent. Custodial parents who were young (under 30 years of age), Black, or never married tended to have higher poverty rates (about 35 percent) than their respective demographic complements, where poverty rates were about 20 percent.

A solid third of single mothers are at or below the poverty level.  Now, pro-abortion advocates will view this as a reason in favor of abortion.  But why?   Why is this a reason for abortion, and not a reason against pre-marital sex?  This is the peril of sexual liberty I mentioned above.  Sexual desire and impulses are very strong, if not the most powerful instinct humans have.  However, no one is obligated to obey every desire they have, are they?  But people like sex.  They really like it.  And why not, it feels good.  Unfortunately, there’s a disproportionately high value placed on fulfilling sexual desires.  So much so that any suggestion of restraint is seen as some kind of misogyny.  Neil from Eternity Matters made an astute observation concerning abortion,  “If abortion wasn’t related to sex it would be illegal across the board.  It is only because it is tied to the feminist movement and sexual “liberation” that it is legal.”

Just as a matter of prudence, sex should be postponed until one intends to start a family.  Abstinence is the single most effective way to reduce both poverty and abortion.  And unfortunately, the bulk of the burden falls mostly on the woman.  She has the power to decide whether she will place herself in a situation that might force her to decide whether to take the life of her child, or live (potentially) in poverty.  Again, it is not fair that she bears this burden.  But she is the one who will be pregnant and must make a mature decision.  She needs to be strong because (speaking from experience) men are weak as far as sexual restraint is concerned.  True and responsible family planning comes before pregnancy, not after.

Comments

  1. No doubt about it, it takes two to tango. And because that is true, it is incumbent upon both man and woman to prepare for the possibility of pregnancy and do the right thing, which is to have the child. Also, if both aren’t willing to accept that responsibility, then neither should engage in, as Dr. Sheldon Cooper would say, coitus.

    Yet, the hard fact remains that it is indeed the woman who needs to take a stand against frivolous intercourse and because she is the the partner who carries the child, she is ultimately responsible for that life whether she wants to be or not. She is the last line of defense for that helpless and innocent victim barring the man basically kidnapping the chick until she delivers. That usually doesn’t go over well.

    And as the woman is that last line of defense, that ultimate decider of whether or not sex takes place given her likely maternity, her decision to abort is far more egregious than that of the loser to whom she gave it up. She didn’t have to take a chance on his character. Her character is what really matters.

    This is a time when women can and must step up. The feminist demands her due, yet when the chips are down, she bails and pretends there is no life inside her.

  2. BTW, just so there’s no confusion, I do NOT believe the man is without responsibility. Men can step up by not pretending sex is just a recreational sport, that it is NOT an expression of love, but of lust. We just call it that to make it all better when we fail to act maturely and deny ourselves the gratification. The only way men can insure abortion doesn’t take place is to make sure one isn’t impregnating any women.

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